The pain of
a broken marriage breaks the heart.
By: Timothy Makokha
31 year old man from Misanga village Bungoma County shocks
residents by rejecting the mother of his child in an awful way. Barasa Okumu
had become a public nuisance, after rejecting the woman with whom he has a
child.
Where diplomacy fails, force must be applied. Talking to him
did not make an impact, until his father resorted to beating him in an attempt
to put sense into his head. Last week on Monday, his father with a walking stick beat him
seriously as he was in the bathroom, taking advantage of the event as he knew
his son could run away naked.
Maria his wife tried all means to please him in vain as this
man could not see sense in whatever advice people were giving him. His in-laws
tried their level best to make this marriage work without any success.
He could masturbate in the presence of the wife. ‘When I
sleep on his bed he moves to sleep on the cold floor in the sitting room and
masturbate from there’ Maria said while tears were rolling down her cheeks.
The clan officials together with elders of the village held
several meetings in attempts to advise him but the advice fell on deaf ears.
On Tuesday this week he was taken to the chief’s Barasa but
the 31 year old man remained adamant. ‘Young man, all women are just the same,
accept the wife and marry another one of your choice in future to add on this
one’, said one of the elders. The woman agreed to this proposal but Okumu still
refused.
‘Before sleeping, he normally takes a photo of a girl he
claims to love, sleep on it and make movements dramatizing a sexual act with
the photo’, Maria explained to the elders. He continued with this act until he
made a hole in the photo. This made it easy for him as he could now insert his
reproductive organ through the hole in the photo and sleep with the photo on
the organ as he masturbate throughout the night.
All this did not scare Maria as she was determined to stay,
to linger and love. Sometimes last
month, he moved from his house and rented a room a few meters away from his
home. Maria was not moved by this act as she decided to stay in the house alone
with the baby.
Later, wanyonyi his eldest brother coaxed him to return
home. He then returned but became so cruel and unapproachable to his wife. Two
days ago, Maria decided to pack and leave with her baby after realizing Okumu
is not ready to have her for a wife.