The origin of dowry
payment among Bukusu people of Kenya
Written by: Timothy
Makokha
In the beginning people were just pairing up basing on a
mutual understanding of the man and woman. Whether the person was marrying the
first, second or whichever wife, he could not give anything to the parents of
the girl despite the fact that she is leaving her parents to start a new
marriage life in a new home, new environment and taking up of foreign cultural
believes as it is believed that it was a woman to get accustomed to the cultural
requsirements of the clan of the husband.
A time came when elders saw the need for them to bring in
the idea of dowry negotiations (eng’anana).
There were various reasons for this, first was sirara (granary full of grain). This means that a girl might have
been a hard working farmer, who had been doing a lot of farming activities on
their farm when she was still under the care of her parents. When she gets
married, her parents would feel the loss in terms of labor on the farm and
therefore a man was to give them something to make them not mind the departure
of their hard working daughter.
The second reason was
kumwoulo (the goodness of a wife). Originally
it was believed that a wife is a source of wealth to her husband. For example a
wife would do most of the house hold chores including cooking, fetching
water/firewood and other farming activities on the farm. Dowry was to be paid
as appreciation and as a sign as respect to the in-laws. For example a man
would earn respect from his in-laws without paying dowry.
Another reason was lukosi
(love for the girl). Dowry was to be paid as a sign of love for a wife. This
would even make the love between a couple to be stronger as the wife will feel
valued and respected by her husband.
Kumuliano (feasting
together) was another reason for dowry payment. Dowry negotiations were an
opportunity for members of the two clans (clan members for the wife and clan
members for the husband) to meet and talk freely while enjoying meals and local
liquor (busaa). In such sessions the
two parties get an opportunity to learn more about the taboos and beliefs of
each other.
There was a slight difference between dowry negotiations for
the girl who was pure and the one with a child or children. Eng’anana (dowry negotiation) for a girl
who had not given birth at her parents home was done under a tree outside the
house while for the one with children or a child at her parent’s home, the
ceremony is done inside a house.
Generally, dowry payment was meant to strengthen the bond in
a marriage (khuandalasia bulebe).
It was important to pay dowry just in case a wife dies of
child delivery, it would be easier to handle the in-laws in such a crisis.
That’s why one of the cows given as dowry was called ekhafu ye lifumo (cattle as a fine in case a wife dies during child
delivery. In some cases if the clan members of the wife has prove that the wife
was intentionally killed then the husband would pay for the head of the
deceased wife (arunga kumurwe).
Elders were also advising people to pay dowry because of the
routinely intimacy between a wife and a husband (orunga khuchia mumarango komukhasi).
Just in case a wife dies before dowry payment, only specific
number of cattle is given not all the 13 animals. In this case one would be
required to pay ye khusera (cow for
proposing to the girl), ye lubeko
(cow for shaving the pubic hair of the wife in her husband’s home), ye khukwisia situru (in payment of
making breasts of a woman flat), yembako/sirara (for the work she had done in
her husband’s home), ya khocha (for
the brother to her mother). Traditionally, Bukusu people believed that a
married woman can only shave her pubic hair only when she is in her husband’s
compound but not from any other place not even at her matrimonial home.
In case a wife was married as a virgin, the blood stained
beddings used on the first night are to be taken to the grand mother to the
girl together with embusi sisonga
(mature she-goat). This was done in respect for the girl who was pure. A goat
is as well given to the aunt (sister to the father of the girl). For a girl who
had children at home (nasikoko), a
husband would not pay ekhafu ye situru as
her breasts were already flat at the
time of her marriage.
Traditionally one was not allowed to accept or take dowry
from his daughters if he has not paid dowry for his wife. In such case, a
person pays dowry for his wife first, then after one year demand for dowry from
married daughters.
Those were the days when age was highly appreciated. For
example, a person was not expected to organize for dowry negotiations (eng’anana)
for a young daughter before organizing one for the eldest daughter. The same is
applied with sons as the first son in a homestead should be the first pone to
pay dowry and hold dowry negotiations as younger ones do the same up to the youngest.
In case the young son
is ready to pay dowry ahead of his elder brother, then he only give the animals
but the dowry negotiation is not held until the elder brothers make dowry
negotiations. The same is applied to daughters, when the husband of the
youngest daughter wants to pay dowry ahead of her elder sister, then the
animals are received but the dowry negotiations are not done until the one for
the eldest daughter pay.
Later in life after the introduction of circumcision, dowry
payment was as well associated with circumcision where a male child was to be
taken to his uncles (brother to the mother) a day to the circumcision day.
The reason for a boy/initiate going for likhoni (reward from an uncle, which is normally a young bull) at
his uncle’s home means that there were some cultural spirits from the mother’s
side that the father’s side are not aware of. The initiates were to call their
uncles to oversee the circumcision ceremony and give lubito to the initiates, in the process of handing over to them
the cultural spirits from the mother’s side.
Continue paying dowry, as long as man kind exists in respect
to the original reasons for dowry payment. The future of dowry payment is
bright despite the misinterpretation of the dowry concept by the misguided
people.
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